In the under ground world of men having sex with prostitutes, there is some thing known as the prime directive. Basically, the prime directive is an awareness that the prostitute, courtesan, escort or what ever label you want to put on the woman that you are paying cash (or in the case of talk show host Jerry Springer, a personal check) :), (see Political career, 2nd paragraph in this link. >>> ) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jerry_Springer for her offering a certain level of intimacy with you and that this is a business transaction and that you are NOT to become too emotionally attached to her.
In other words, she is being paid to provide you with a personal service that is supposed to be impersonal when it comes to feeling that she is your girl friend or even more than that.
Why is it that some men have a problem pertaining to breaking the prime directive? It is for the same reason that some priests have a problem with homosexuality and the desire to have sex with boys. There was already a latent or not so latent desire for such intimacy from the get go.
There is a song that goes some thing like this....... looking for love in all the wrong places... and so on and so on.
Some men see prostitutes as a manner to get their sexual rocks off, shoot a load and go on with their life a more fulfilled man in the context that he experienced a brief intimate encounter with a woman and he feels better about life because of it.
Other men need more of a woman than 5 minutes of DFK (deep French kiss), 5 minutes of licking her pussy, 5 minutes of her BBBJ him (bare back blow job) and 10 minutes of him fucking her doggy or mish. These men are looking for more of what Hugh Hefner appears to desire in a woman. That is a definite appreciation of her beauty, but not in a slam bam thank you mam kinda manner.
On the other end of the spectrum, would be what Max Hardcore depicted a few years back prior to sadly being busted for breaking obscenity laws, that is a hard core graphic anal fucking of a woman in the most graphic of manners.
Hugh Hefner and his Playboy concept, glorify Woman and put her on a pedestal in an elegant manner. Max Hardcore's previous rendition of women is that they are trashy fuck slut whores who need to be graphically anally fucked and treated like the fucken whore sluts that they are.
Getting back to the prime directive concept, the John who sees escorts, who is more of the Hugh Hefner type, IMO (in my opinion), would be more of the kind of John who would have prime directive issues. He is looking for love, intimacy, romance and hot sex from a woman and sure as all hell, if this escort gives him all of that on a paid date with him, he will forget the fact that she is being paid to perform and he'll want that same treatment all the time. Meaning he will knock on her door unannounced and call or text her 10 to 20 times a day, cause he is certain that she was looking for a man like him to become her boy friend or husband!
You think that sounds crazy and out there? Many Johns have a problem with this prime directive concept.
What is an escort to do?
Well, this is one of the latent dangers of being a prostitute. On one end of the spectrum, you never know when you are gonna have a John who goes crazy on you, hand cuffs you, rapes you and murders you. After all, his perception is that you are just a low life who has sex with strangers all day long any way, how valuable can your life be?
Then on the other end of the spectrum is the type of John who reads Playboy magazine, he believes women should be placed on a pedestal and totally appreciated for all of her glorious sexual beauty. He is over looking the fact that most all women are dominatrix bitches deep with in and are waiting till you are committed to them to express their true self. ha ha ha
What has helped to bring about more prime directive breakage issues?
Escort review boards have made prime directive issues greater and more prevalent IMO. How and why? Escort review boards have become a safety net for both the John and the prostitute. He knows a lot about her prior to ever having a date with her (via reading many of her reviews via Johns who have already been on a date with her) She knows a lot about his past track record via his many posts on the review board and via being able to check references of other prostitutes that he has had sex with.
All of this makes for a greater comfortability level for all involved. The comfortability level may become so high that the John REALLY becomes attached to the prostitute or that the prostitute becomes so comfortable with the John that she allows BBFS (bare back full service) or other greater forms of intimacy.
There is perhaps a wishful thinking problem on the part of perhaps either the prostitute or the John. Fact of the matter is, many prostitutes have boy friends or common law husbands. These boy friends or husbands are accepting of the fact that their mate is a prostitute and that his relationship with her is more special than what she offers to all of her Johns.
Well, this John who is having prime directive issues with her, is hoping that perhaps he can have this type of relationship with her or that maybe she will give up being a prostitute for him and that their love for each other will be true and that they'll live happily ever after. Yeah right!
Do guns murder people or do people pull the trigger and the person murders another person?
With out the human element you can not have the aberration of human behavior.
A prostitute chooses to earn money via having sex with strangers. When conservative traditional society warned her about the dangers of being a prostitute, one of those dangers is dealing with men who wanna love you a little more than you intended. Many people are........ looking for love in all the wrong places.......
